Your girl seems to know just how to turn you on….but are you ready to turn the tables on her? Whether you’re new to the game or you just want to add some spice to your current routine, wikiHow can help you get your girl revved up and ready to go. Get on your way to having her just drooling by getting started with Step 1 below!
Part 1 of 4: Charming Her
#1 Warm her up.
The main key to turning a girl on is taking your time. As fast as guys usually get turned on, women need about that much build up. This means that you’ll have to lay a little ground work and take the seduction part nice and slow.
A huge part of warming her up, of course, is making her feel comfortable and safe. You’re going to see a lot of steps below about respecting her, seeking consent, and otherwise doing things that you might not think of as “turn-ons”. Don’t neglect them, they’re important. Sex is very mental for women and if you help them by making it so that they don’t have to worry, then that’s half the battle.
#2 Make her feel pretty.
You know that warm, fuzzy feeling you get when you find out that someone thinks you’re attractive? That’s what you want to create for her. The fact that you think she’s pretty is a significant turn-on. Here’s how to communicate it without going overboard:
Say “Hey, pretty lady” or “Hello, beautiful” when you greet her. It’s simple and short, but direct.
Pay her a compliment. Lower the volume and tone of your voice slightly, and say something like “You look amazing today” or “I love your eyes.”
#3 Be the best version of yourself.
Be the guy/girl who’s honestly kind. Who respects her and thinks she’s more beautiful than the most picturesque sunset. Be the guy/girl who works hard and makes it easier for her to work hard, by helping to shoulder her burdens. This will all mostly keep you from turning her off!
#4 Be confident, even if you don’t act like it.
Some girls like a guy who is nervous and even klutzy around her, but don’t overdo it. If the girl is shy, be confident; if the girl is confident, feel free to act somewhat shy. Keep your shoulders straight and your chin high, and don’t be afraid to look her in the eyes. You’re communicating through your body language that you’re strong, brave, and worthy of her attention
#5 Clean up.
Shower, put on deodorant, shave, brush your teeth and wear clean clothes. If you’re feeling up to it, you can also do your hair and put on a light spray of cologne. Knowing that you’re at your physical best will help you act confident and in-charge.
#6 Know how to treat a lady.
Save the dirty jokes and discussions of bodily functions for your guy friends. When you’re with the girl you like, be polite. Use good table manners, hold the door open for her, and say please and thank you. Good manners aren’t necessarily attractive, but bad manners are definitely unattractive, so play it safe.
Part 2 of 4: Turning Up the Heat
#7 Start with slow, gentle touches.
You can do these in passing, at the end of a date, while you’re watching a movie, whenever — the point is that they don’t have to be saved for when you’re already making out. They can, however, indicate that you’re interested in doing a little more.
#8 Whisper in her ear.
Ears are an erogenous zone for both sexes, and the light pressure of your breath will probably feel good. Saying the right things will also turn her on. Try something like: “I couldn’t stop thinking about you today”.